Some Differences Between Depression and Grief


by
Rev. Marcia Howland
Bereavement Facilitator

 

How can you tell if you are depressed or going through the grieving process? Here are some tips. Prolonged isolation and self-preoccupation that is long term is different than a loss focus which is short-term grief. A feeling of hopelessness, worthlessness, and guilt may displace spirituality when depressed but with grief, spiritual activity aids recovery.

 

When sadness is mixed with anger and a constantly pervasive low mood, withdrawal and inward focus, more likely you are suffering depression. With grief, strong open emotions like hostility, periodic crying, and heightened mood states are normal with thoughts of loss. With depression objectivity is more difficult and loss is seen as bad or punishment; grief is recognizable and vivid dreams may cause one to feel blame for the loss.

 

Potential or planned harm to self or others is a red flag for depression, whereas, grief will be short-term lack of motivation. An inability to function is likely caused from depression; while grieving one can usually carry out daily life activities. Out of character changes, sleep deprivation, or eating habits affecting weight change over a long period of time may mean you are depressed. By contrast in the short term, these are functional changes during restructuring one’s life after significant loss.

 

 Indecision, inability to articulate, diminished eye contact, long-term poor concentration, chronic conflict, and being accident prone may be signs of depression. On the other hand, loss of confidence, pinpointing a difficulty, making eye contact, some confusion, feelings of pain or fear go along with grieving.

 

 What can you do? Talk to a close friend. Express your sadness or thoughts about bringing harm to yourself or someone else. Exercise, sleep, get proper nutrition, and medicate as needed. Maintain contact with caring people. Seek help before making decisions.  Using small steps of good self-care with a partner can help you progress from depression or sadness and restore your hope, equilibrium, and zest for life.